Parents!!!?
Q. I work with a lady who also works at a HOSS's in central PA. She told me that even though her foster parents are her legal parents she was told they could not use her employee family discount since they were not blood related. Does this not seem really wrong to anyone else??? That is like saying your adoptive parents arent your parents. They were offered this discount to start off with but in the last month or so they were told it with no notification whether verbal or written was made saying they changed the policy.
Asked by colebomb23 - Mon Dec 3 02:10:18 2007 - Law & Ethics - 7 Answers - Comments

A. All state laws recognize adoptive families the same as they recognize biological families. I am not sure if foster family=adoptive family, but it would be really easy to check your state's laws on www.findlaw.com . Or you could write to your legislator.
Answered by Yellow B - Mon Dec 3 02:16:21 2007

What is it like having parents who are older than the average parent?
Q. And before you start typing in your smart remarks, I know that parents can't be younger than their kids. This is a serious question, so please go play somewhere else if you don't have anything intelligent to contribute. I want to know what it is like for kids who have older parents. I am 49 with two adult sons, ages 26 and 23. But I also have a daughter who is 18 months old. I will be 65 when she graduates from high school. I would like to hear the pros and cons of the age distance from kids with older parents. This is important to me. Thanks for your serious input.
Asked by Sam - Fri Apr 14 23:43:15 2006 - Adolescent - 7 Answers - Comments

A. I'm 23, but when my best friend and I were in 8th grade, her mom had a son. During that time, she felt a little jealous of the baby because until then, she had been the youngest. Also, her mom made some decisions that were very different for her boy than the way she raised the girls. Like now, you may have more money to spend on your child than you did with your sons. That's okay and it makes it easier that they were boys and your new one is a girl! My friend still watches her little brother, but I think she still feels a little neglected. I think maybe it's best to make sure that you don't treat your other children like they don't matter, or that the newborn is more important. Make time for all of your children, (Newborns obviously need a… [cont.]
Answered by rockchick13 - Sat Apr 15 02:11:01 2006

What can parents do to help their daughters enter the dating world safely and with confidence?
Q. Girls rarely get to direct their own sexual identity or development in our culture. Between the messages they get from the media, friends, parents and boys, it's amazing any of them leave adolescence unscathed. Unfortunately, though, many don't. So what can parents do to protect their girls? How can they help girls navigate their way through these messages, and still somehow stay true to the girls' own desires? I was wondering what my creepy contacts thought about this?
Asked by coriss esh - Wed Dec 29 22:32:17 2010 - Family - 3 Answers - Comments

What states consider parents education level in deciding student aid?
Q. The FAFSA application ask for my parents education level? In the instructions it says some states offer aid based on eduction level of parents. Does California use this factor? Is it better to have parents with education or without education?
Asked by full of folly - Thu Apr 17 15:51:51 2008 - Financial Aid - 2 Answers - Comments

A. Tell the truth!! Then it won't matter one way or the other.
Answered by Found-1 - Thu Apr 17 16:38:30 2008

What do parents think of a 15 year old daughter getting a cartilage piercing?
Q. My parents are kind of iffy about piercings and so far I only have just one lobe piercing on each side and I really would like a cartilage. What do other parents think about their kids getting them?
Asked by B - Wed Aug 25 00:41:57 2010 - Other - Skin & Body - 10 Answers - Comments

A. Most NORMAL parents don't have a problem with it, but all parents are different. Like seriously, what's the big deal? It's just an earring in your ear. No big deal. I think it's pretty pathetic when parent's are iffy about a piercing like a cartilage piercing. I could understand if they were iffy about you piercing your eyebrow or nipple, but a cartilage piercing is nothing, at least in my opinion. My mom doesn't have a problem with any of my piercings (industrial, monroe, nose, 4 in my ear), but my mom is much more laid back and cooler than most parents. But overall, I'd say about 95% of girls I know, their parents don't give a crap about a cartilage piercing.
Answered by Cassandra - Wed Aug 25 00:44:04 2010

How to convince parents to let me work on business?
Q. Long story short I'm 19, recently got funding for a video game company I co-founded. This sounds "childish", but my parents will freak out because I quit college over it. I can go back to school, however, I have no intent to. A business requires many more hours than college, so if I was lazy, I would pick college. I love learning: I read over 300 pages of business books a day, and I have a crystal clear vision of what I want to do in the next years to come; and that does not require a degree. I want to bring this to parents so that they don't get hurt. However, I'm 100% that my decision to quit school is correct. Thanks, I'm out space. Brief accomplishments : Without parental assistance (my parents are not entrepreneurs): Started… [cont.]
Asked by Mat C - Sat Aug 4 23:03:59 2007 - Small Business - 3 Answers - Comments

A. At 19, you are an adult. Unless they were funding your college, and you misused their funds, there really isn't anything they can do about it, though I understand that you want to break it to them gently. Even if you didn't need one to get the funding you got, I'd write up a business plan (always a good idea with a new business, anyway) -- and present the plan to them when you talk to them, so that they can see this is not just a "whim," and that you are serious and are looking not only at short-term goals, but long term goals, as well. Also, join your city's Small Business Association, if having connections there would be helpful to you. Some business classes (even if you don't intend to major in anything), might be something… [cont.]
Answered by kaliselenite - Sat Aug 4 23:19:12 2007

How are irresponsible parents the main cause of the disappearance of children?
Q. How are irresponsible parents the main cause of the disappearance of children? Irresponsible parents are the main cause for cases such as kidnap of children to occur. Do you agree? Why? If it is not the main cause, then what is and why?
Asked by Horsewhips - Fri Apr 4 12:44:05 2008 - Parenting - 9 Answers - Comments

A. I don't know what the situation is in Malaysia (where your question was posted), but in the US, more children run away than are kidnapped. Often their homelives are miserable, usually due to abuse from their mother's boyfriend or their stepparent. Many are thrown out for bad behavior, or just for being gay or pregnant. Many are drug addicts or alcoholics and have turned to full-time prostitution to support their habit. Of the ones that are kidnapped, nearly always it's by the parent that doesn't have custody, rarely by strangers. In any case, I wouldn't automatically blame the parent, nor would I automatically say the parent was faultless.
Answered by thosewerethedays - Wed Apr 9 15:53:27 2008

How can I convince my parents to let me go to a Muse concert?
Q. Ok, so Muse is touring later this year and tickets go on sale soon, you would not belive how much I want to go, I've been a fan for about 5 years. The only thing is, I need to convince my parents to let me go. I've never been to a big 'rock' concert before, only classical music concerts (as me & both my parents are classical musicians :|) I'll be 17 when the concert is (most likely). Got any ideas on how I should bring this up with my parents?
Asked by sing_for_absolution300 - Sat Jun 6 03:05:40 2009 - Other - Music - 8 Answers - Comments

A. have you got someone older to go with? if not just invent someone lol. what I would do is look into travel and accommodation for the gig(where is it you hope to go?) and have that all researched then bring the subject up and tell them how long you have been waiting for this. there are 14 year olds on Muselive going to gigs in the UK so you could mention that as they are 14+ gigs and the crowd is usually well behaved(sort of). it's worth pushing for as you will have the time of your life:) I've been saving up since Wembley (best weekend of my life so far) and have got tickets for 3 gigs in the UK-I now have to persuade my parents to look after my pets for 2 nights when I go to London:) If you aren't on Muselive already come and have a look-t [cont.]
Answered by lynne r - Sun Jun 7 10:56:46 2009

Is having parents set you up a good way to start a relationship?
Q. My parents and his parents arranged for us to meet, hoping we would date. Is that a good start to a relationship?
Asked by Q - Sun Feb 6 20:56:20 2011 - Singles & Dating - 4 Answers - Comments

A. Well at least you know the parents approve. It can't hurt. Just see where it goes. :)
Answered by Jon from Toledo - Sun Feb 6 20:58:26 2011

p Are Nt S?!?!?!?
Q. would you be happier if your parents died? i know i would. i wish they would die in a plane crash. or a car crash.
Asked by Wolf - Sun Nov 19 09:12:46 2006 - Psychology - 8 Answers - 2 Comments

A. hey friend.. yes sometimes parents might be very bad to you, but come to think of it, they are the very reason why you are here, on earth learning how to speak and communicate with others.. some parents are sometimes abusive and irresponsible.. well you can take it as a part of challenge in life...i know doing it is not as easy as speaking of it.. i can understand how you feel..i have a few friends whom comes from very broken family..back then he was beaten and scolded daily.. he hated them too..but he was determined to live and show them that he can be succesful in life... you know what might hurt your parents more?..if they die they won;t feel a thing.. it is when you grow up and be successful and you can speak it to their face that it… [cont.]
Answered by tata bear - Sun Nov 19 09:32:09 2006

How come parents want tv and the internet to educate their child?
Q. Think about it... Parents always want a tv role model for kids and complain if they wear something skimpy, etc. Shouldn't parents be the role models and educate their kids about social things they see on tv and the internet? Treat their children like a mentor?
Asked by I'll Die Living As Free As My Hair - Tue Jul 12 12:53:17 2011 - Parenting - 4 Answers - Comments

A. it's because parents don't want to take the time to be a good role model. yes, they should get more involved with their children but it appears that parents these days are too stupid or too selfish to do it. i totally agree with you.
Answered by Emily - Tue Jul 12 12:57:51 2011

How do the Parents of a child with learning difficulties effect the childs education?
Q. ADHD, Downs sydrome, Autism, do children with theses education needs get held back or have more oppurtunities depending on their parents. For example if they attend a mainstream school with learning support or a special needs school and if their parents don't realise thier potential?
Asked by Just another - Wed Feb 4 18:45:01 2009 - Special Education - 7 Answers - Comments

A. Parent support and involvement is ALWAYS to the benefit and well-being of the child. That said, can a chlid with or without special needs still be successful if parents aren't involved... yes. When children have a disability that is obvious, such as down syndrome or severe autism, it is considered "educationally neglectful" for the parents not to pursue special education services (in most states, that is). Children's Services can intervene. Most parents wouldn't ignore problems like that anyway because they would want help. However, when the need is something like ADHD, a learning disability, or high-functionin g autism, parents can choose to ignore the problems and, yes, it is generally to the detriment of the child. Parents can… [cont.]
Answered by Barkley - Wed Feb 4 21:10:34 2009

How do parents decide whether to or not to immunize their children?
Q. There is a lot of information telling parents to immunize and not to immunize. How do parents decide who to listen to? I live in the East Bay and would love to hear from Oakland, CA-area parents who have dealt with or are dealing with this question.
Asked by Maggie F - Wed Sep 17 15:13:50 2008 - Parenting - 16 Answers - Comments

A. I sort out what I heard from what I know to be true. This is easier said than done. Then I weigh the risks of both sides and consult the pediatrician for his input and opinion.
Answered by Bozz Mozz - Wed Sep 17 15:20:43 2008

How common is it for parents to regret having kids or to become very depressed after having kids?
Q. I realize this is a touchy subject, and some parents may not be completely honest about it. How many parents regret having either one of their kids or all of this kids? This question is open to both parents and people who know parents who regret having kids and everyone else for that matter.
Asked by Jim G - Wed May 5 11:01:52 2010 - Parenting - 6 Answers - Comments

A. I can't say I regret my kids - I love them so much and they each bring enrichment to my life and hopefully the lives of others. But I can say that there are times I can regret just the generality of having kids period. There is so much worry that goes along with kids. Illness, bullying, social issues, drugs, kidnapping, education, etc... that it is so overwhelming. Then I worry about their futures, their potential spouses, their careers, jobs, where they will live, the world, the economy, war, pollution, terrorists... the list goes on and on. It isn't just the day in, day out chaos that goes along with parenting, it is the lifelong never ending responsibiltiy for bringing that human into the world.
Answered by JAG - Wed May 5 11:13:41 2010

How to tell parents about guy i met online and might come over?
Q. So we met online, have been chatting, video chatting, talking on the phone, and been good friends for 3 years or so. We're countries apart but he's been thinking about going across the world so we can finally meet. I live in a country where I still live with my parents. They're kind of old fashioned about the whole dating thing. We both want him to meet my family too. But how do I tell my parents? Btw, we're both in our 20's.
Asked by i just wish - Mon May 9 06:21:22 2011 - Singles & Dating - 3 Answers - Comments

PAREn TS!!!?
Q. how much do i pay a babysitter? she is 15. I have 2 kids.
Asked by xoxo - Thu Sep 14 18:23:39 2006 - Small Business - 14 Answers - Comments

A. 7 dollars an hour, I am a babysitter, but you should ask for her rate first.
Answered by Kate - Thu Sep 14 18:25:11 2006

How can I convince my parents to let me and my cousins go to Disneyland this summer?
Q. HI, This summer i will be 21 years old. I want to take my cousins that are like brothers and sisters to me to Disneyland. We are disney fanatics. But, I live with very strict parents. They go by the "you live in my house, you live under my rules." I want to prove to them that at 21 I can be responsible. Which they don't think I am. How can I convince my parents to let me and my cousins go? PS I love Disneyland. My parents hate going.
Asked by ASH SILVER - Sat Mar 5 05:46:10 2011 - Family - 3 Answers - Comments

A. Ash, Why not plan the trip . . show all the math . . how to get there, how much it will cost, staying on property at what hotel . . .free shuttle ride info, Park Hopper Passes so you can see all three parks . . . lay it all out. Park of showing your responsible is in the planning . . . do it right, they may see you have really thought it through and let ya go... Good Luck ...
Answered by John - Sat Mar 5 06:36:54 2011

How can parents tell if their kids are experimenting with drugs and alcohol?
Q. Just read a study that kids that learn from their parents are 50% less likely to get tied up in problems like these. What can you do as parents to help keep kids out of this stuff? What can parents who have kids with these problems do to help their kids? Just wanted to post this question for parents to reference and because it seems to be a growing problem, so anything you have to say would be appreciated. I don't have a kid...?
Asked by hi - Mon May 12 20:18:23 2008 - Parenting - 4 Answers - 1 Comments

A. my dad went in to a.a. when i was 7 or 8 and he always told us about his drinking and drugging experiences so i never had the desire to do it. i'm 28 now and although i did hang out and drink occasionally when i was younger, i never had the desire to drink or drug because i knew the far extreme it could lead to. for people that don't want their kids to drink and get into drugs i say stop acting like drugs and alcohol don't exist. tell them the horrifying stories you know of people got mangled in dui accidents and stories of girls getting date raped. i know its extreme but we need to start letting kids know early on that with drugs and alcohol can come extreme results. and don't wait until the kids are 15 and 16. start talking to them when… [cont.]
Answered by Malika - Mon May 12 20:46:26 2008

What are your tips for parents to help their teenagers do better in high school?
Q. I'm preparing a newsletter for parents and I would appreciate some suggestions. I can come up with many on my own but I think more like a teacher than another parent (even though I raised my own through their teen years). What would one parent tell another?
Asked by cambay - Tue Jul 6 09:07:29 2010 - Primary & Secondary Education - 9 Answers - Comments

A. praise them when they do something right, for trying their best and if possible show rewards for good grade. my parents/grandpa rents gave me $20 per A on report cards and well in high school money motivated me it does not have to be money but rewards could work ask questions about their homework, check over their answers, make sure they know they can ask you for help or who they can ask for help just some ideas
Answered by Chonsie - Tue Jul 6 19:03:52 2010

Convincing parents to eliminate the home phone?
Q. Well it's not really parents it's me and my dad trying to convince my mom. Me and my dad already only use our cell phones only. We give all our friends our cell numbers. My mom on the other hand always uses the home phone for her friends and everything. The only thing is we would have to get my younger brother a cell phone which is no big deal because my parents were planning to anyway. Any Help on convincing my mom?
Asked by - Wed Jun 3 18:52:40 2009 - Cell Phones & Plans - 5 Answers - Comments

A. I would say cancel all the ultra-annoying, time and money wasting cell phones, and just keep the home phone.
Answered by C - Wed Jun 3 19:01:16 2009